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Features No 60-How hard is it to just be honest?

Journal Entry: Sun Jun 12, 2011, 6:56 AM
What does a man do,when he no longer loves you?
When he wants out of your relationship?
Because he's bored or has found someone else?
Does he come and tell you?
Or does he become more and more distant,
more and more indifferent,
until he makes YOU to tell him that you want out?
And that's so much worse than the fact he doesn't love you any more..

You feel his change,his coldness,
and you keep asking him if something is wrong..
He brings you in the position not to care about your decency,
to beg for an honest explanation,to nag...
But he refuses everything.....
He wants to make you feel absurd and cheep...
He is NEVER going to be honest with you..
He keeps drifting away,until he makes YOU tell him to end it...
And then he accuses YOU for ending it.....


This is not personal,it's something i've discussed with many of my female friends...
If any of you have had a different experience,please prove me wrong...

My male friends,i'm sorry...Do you desagree with me?
How many of you,my dearests,had the courage
to tell a woman that you don't love her any more?






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DestinyWhy?...

    Born on a stormy summer night

They all knew she would be courageous; heart like a lions
    
    At the top of the class

They all knew she would turn out oh so smart
    
    So independent

They all knew she would serve them without a word

        Now...what am I? In their eyes I was a wonderful child...all I did was
                             
FloatingFloating….

Drifting on the lake
The current carries me
…in a soothing embrace
flow on,
flow on…

I close my eyes
Sparkling
images…
Red of the sun
flickers,
sparks,
And you

My hands float lightly…
swirling patterns
Release
renew
Reflections within,
and without

I pause
and touch down
On tip toe
…the sand between my toes
Ever moving,
swirling…
Drawing me in

Sparkling reflections
drift across the tiny waves
…to meet me
greet me
Reflections of the trees,
coming to me
through me
Magic

I dive
under the water
Forward,
onward
Out where it's
dark
…and cold
All to mys
Don't Judge MeIn silence she suffered for so many years,
Never once crying,
Never shedding a tear,
Learned the hard way to not voice a sound,
So never once did she cry out loud,
She took the abuse of many for many years,
Suffering brutality and living in agonizing fear,
Beaten, raped, and emotionally scared,
Never once asking or crying for help,
No that wasn't her style.

Yet even after these years,
En-caged she has stayed,
Suffering nigh terrors and fears
In so many ways,
Not learning who to trust,
Or how to except love,
Yet not once did she scream or cry to anyone.

No one knew she was a victim of abuse,
No one would know,
June Haiku30

bury me please where poppies bloom

29

attacking convention
stirring up a hornet's nest
some things can't be helped

28

rhythmic cracking
somewhere unseen
—batting practice

27

the cat nudges me
as I make lunch
—tuna sandwiches

26

oscillating fan
the black cat chases
phantoms

25

withered plants
the heat takes its toll

24

summer arrives
with a vengeance
30 degrees

23

weekend trip
we are met at the door
by frowning cats

22

3 am text
morning class
cancelled

21

at pole's end
bean plants reach
skyward

20

at deer park
the smell of manure
sweet memories

19

deer wander
under Buddha's smile
anci



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Thank you for being here!..:) Have a great week,my beloved..Take care!:love:

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:iconchryssalis:
We all deserve honesty,my dearest Kythra...:huggle:
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:icondreamsd:
*DreamsD Jun 22, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Good works!:nod::thumbsup:
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:iconrezzanatakol:
This is the answer that why I m down lately:(
BUT I M STRONG THAN ANY MAN!
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:iconchryssalis:
Really,my dear Rezzan?So you had an experience like this,too?
Yes,my friend!WE're stronger than any man!!:huggle:
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:iconrezzanatakol:
The troubles couldnt stop me life.:huggle::heart:
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:icondjayart:
~djayART Jun 17, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hmmm, wonder why you chose this topic? you still at dear Lady? ;) ... sometimes we get what we believe :shrug: ... as for me I am not known for my lack of honesty, no matter what the issue may be, nor how how pleasant others may perceive it ... it keeps everything authentic and transparent, icluding matters involving other people :hug:
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:iconchryssalis:
I'm not still at it,but i've been there..
Yes,but sometimes we end up believing what we get...:)
I'm glad you're the honest type,my dear David..:huggle:
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:icondjayart:
~djayART Jun 17, 2011  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Amendments: (1) "you still at it dear Lady" (2)"... nor how unpleasant/unfair/cold others may perceive/interpret it..." (3) "including" ... I really should proof-read what I type :giggle: b4 "send"
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:iconthecandleobra:
This was so well written. It is impressive. Impressive because it is hard to handle the emotional realities involved. I know a man who did this. I watched the process happen over about 15 years marraige with him growing more and more distant but not beligerant. Not mean, no yelling. He was a "Nice Man" and could not wear the mantel of the 'bad guy". Even his adopted 18 year old son was affected and when his father was asked directly about it he said , "Well, he knows where I am - he knows where to find me". And only a few could feel the pain that he was saying that he would not be seeking out his Son. That he would not need him.

I have to say though, more often I have seen women behave this way. But it is obscrued very quickly. The guy will often very quickly fall into a trap of fighting or yealling or hitting or physical abuse of one kind or another to express his pain or hurt. And THAT will become the REASON it isn't working. He's drinking, he doesn't care anymore, he has another women. (while he inwardly torments about his children and abandoned affections . . . ) as reported here! Usually it is not reported at all.
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It's hard for a women in this culture to see an angry abusive man as a victim. He often does. But he's got little
chance of a fair hearing.

Ernie
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:iconchryssalis:
After a long relationship,it's even more hurtful..
I hate physical abuse of any kind,but i hate also the psychological abuse,
which is what i describe...I can't see an angry abusive man as a victim..
Yes,women do that too,i'm sure of that,but i tend to believe that men do that the most..
Whoever does it,it's very low and cowardish..

Thank you for sharing with me,my friend!:huggle:
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